As for omens, there is no such thing as an omen. Destiny does not send us heralds. She is too wise or too cruel for that.
–Oscar Wilde, The Picture of Dorian Gray (1891)
Going through old work there are plenty of these small paintings that I just shuffle past quickly without giving them much consideration. They often are half-baked attempts or simply flawed or, worst of all, just plain boring. As a result, whatever thought was present when they were initially painted is often lost in the mists of time and faded memory.
Such is the case with this small painting from late 1995. Whenever I make these little journeys back in time, I generally go past this one quickly though I have stopped a few times. At those times, I usually think that it was sad that it had puddled a bit in its sky, causing there to be darker blotches captured in the pitted surface of the paper. I remember this being one of the first time I had used this particular watercolor paper and that it had a number of qualities to it, such as this puddling, that turned me off.
I always assumed over the years that it was this flaw in the sky that kept me from actually completing the painting by putting a destination on the sign.
That made sense.
But just the other day I picked up this piece and examined it closer than I have in decades. I noticed that I had thought enough of this flawed piece to title it, which surprised me. The title was Give Me a Sign. That explained the omission of destination on the sign.
It was as though I was at a point where I didn’t know which direction to head or what to do.
Looking at the date scrawled in pencil in the bottom right corner, I realized that this was probably the case for me at that time. It was dated November 7, 1995. Just a couple of days before my mom finally succumbed to cancer. I had seen her for the last time a few weeks before down in Florida and she soon after spent her final days in a highly medicated state.
Her end was inevitable at that point and she hovered between states of being. A thousand or so miles away, I found myself feeling much the same, tied to my memories of her past while trying to imagine a future without her. I felt lost and impotent in that moment, not knowing which way to turn.
I truly wanted a sign to guide me.
Just the context of that title and date changed how I was now seeing this piece. It took on meaning and weight that had been lost to me.
My perception of that staining in the sky also changed. I now understood that at the time my distracted mind most likely overlooked the puddles that gathered allowing the paper to absorb the pigments, causing the dak blotches. I no longer saw it as a flaw.
Maybe it was sign in itself that, try as we might, we can’t control life?
Maybe we spend too much time looking for signs at the wrong times?
I don’t know.
I do know that I will look at this small painting, insignificant and flawed as it is, with much greater appreciation in the future.
Here’s a song that came on while I was writing this. It’s Make It Rain from Foy Vance, a singer/songwriter from Northern Ireland whose songs I have featured a couple of times in the last several years. A cover of this song became a hit for Ed Sheeran but this one hits harder for me. Sometimes you can’t copy or fully capture the authenticity of an artist. This i sone of those times.
Boy, it seemed to hit the mark for what I was feeling on a lovely gray and rainy morning, one that we have been seeking for a while now in these all too dry days of summer.
You best leave now before I cry. You heard me– git.










