The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it’s indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it’s indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it’s indifference.
-Elie Wiesel, interview with U.S. News & World Report, October, 1986
I’ve been sitting here for quite some time now, staring at the quote above from Elie Wiesel. I had planned on writing about how my work evolved as a response to the indifference of others but now, looking at those words and putting them into the context of Wiesel’s experience, I feel a bit foolish. Wiesel, who had survived nightmares of the Nazi concentration camps during the Holocaust to later spend his life crusading so that it might never happen again, was eyewitness to indifference on a grand scale, from those who were complicit or those who did not raise their voices in protest even though they knew what was happening to the personal indifference shown by his Nazi guards, as they turned a blind eye to the suffering and inhumanity directly before them on a daily basis, treating their innocent captives as though they were nothing at all. Less than human.
The indifference of which he speaks is that which looks past you without any regard for your humanity. Or your mere existence, for that matter. It is this failure to engage, this failure to allow our empathy to take hold and guide us, that grants permission for the great suffering that takes place throughout our world.
You can see where writing about showing a picture as a symbolic battle against indifference might seem more than a bit trivial. It certainly does to me.
But I do see in it a microcosm of the wider implications. We all want our humanity, our existence, recognized and for me this was a small way of raising my voice to be heard, of having my very existence recognized.
When I first started showing my work I was not far removed from a period that was the lowest point of my life. I felt absolutely voiceless and barely visible in the world, dispossessed in many ways. In art I found a way to finally express an inner voice, my real humanity, that others could see and react to. So, when my first opportunity to display my work came, at the West End Gallery in 1995, I went to the show with great trepidation.
For some, it was just a show of some nice paintings by some nice folks. For me, it was an actual test of my existence.
It was interesting as I stood off to the side, watching as people walked about the space. It was elating when someone stopped and looked at my small paintings. But that feeling of momentary glee was overwhelmed by the indifference shown by those who walked by with hardly a glance. That crushed me. I would have rather they had stopped and spit at my work on the wall than merely walk by dismissively. That, at least, would have made me feel heard.
Don’t get me wrong here– some people walking by a painting that doesn’t move them with barely a glance are not Nazis in any sense of the word. I held no ill will toward them, even at that moment. I knew that I was the one who had placed so much significance on this moment, not them. They had no idea that they were playing part to an existential crisis.
The funny thing is that now, I am even a bit grateful for their indifference that night because it made me vow that I would paint bolder, that I would make my voice be heard. Without that indifference I might have settled and not continued forward on the path I had chosen to follow.
But in this case, I knew that it was up to me to overcome their indifference.
Again, please excuse my use of Mr. Wiesel’s quote here. My little anecdote has little to do with the experience of those who suffered horribly at the hands of evil people who were enabled by the indifference of those who might have stopped them. I apologize for invoking his words in my poor analogy.
The point is that we all want to be heard, to be recognized on the most basic level for our own existence, our own individual selves. But too often, we all show indifference that takes that away from others, including those that we love. We all need to listen and hear, to look and see, to express our empathy with those we encounter.
We need to care.
Maybe in that small ways the greater effects of indifference of which Elie Wiesel spoke can be somehow avoided.
We can hope.
This post first ran here quite a few years ago and has been replayed several times. I had been thinking about it and the Wiesel quote recently and how indifference has played such a large role in the current state of the world so when I ran late again this morning, I decided to replay it. Plus, it remains a favorite of mine. I have told the story many times of the first exhibit in which my work was shown but have often edited out the part where this show represented an existential crossroad in my mind. It felt at the time that if there had been nothing but indifference that first night, I would have been back in the wilderness. Pathless and lost.
But thankfully, there were inquisitive eyes and kind words that kept me on my path. Because of the grace contained in those eyes and words, the indifference I experienced that night did not overwhelm or defeat me. It only made me even more determined to make my voice heard.
I still think my experience is a poor example of Wiesel’s words but if it makes a single person question the times that they have easily chosen indifference in their lives when a kind word or a helping hand may have changed someone’s day or life, then I am okay with my use of it.
Also, I have to point out that the sentiment behind the Wiesel quote is not new. I would like to go into it now but don’t have the time. You can read about it at Quote Investigator.
Here’s a song that gets to the point here. This is the great Etta James with her version of I Wish Someone Would Care. I love the original. written and performed by the Soul Queen of New Orleans, Irma Thomas, but Etta James puts some extra hurt in her cover.
I hear you and I see you. Now you have to leave. Git.











