I have always been attracted to cemeteries, which is probably why they have been popping up in several of my recent landscapes. Even as a child, I found the stones in cemeteries irresistible. There were several old family plots around our home, small groupings of stones set in the edge of the woods where early settlers in our area were laid to rest. Most had death dates, when you could make them out on the weathered slate, that dated from around the late 1700’s and early 1800’s.
One small plot across the road from us was reportedly the family of a coach driver that had resided in the home that had once been attached to an old stone chimney that still stands there to this day, almost like a monument in itself. It was rumored that the family had been killed in an Indian massacre, although I believe it to be just that– a rumor. I found the small graveyard tucked on the edge of a forest hidden from the road a very serene place. It had a calming air around it that I found appealing, even as a child. Plus it played to the imagination, the stones conjuring up the names of those that I would try to envision and bring to life in my mind.
This fascination has carried through my life. I am always eager to walk in cemeteries, to look at the stones and read the names. I sometimes wonder, as I walk through with a name on my lips, if that name has been spoken in years. I somehow imagine that I am conjuring their spirit, their memory of their life, back into form by virtue of simply saying their name. It seems like their is a power in this simple act, even if is a mere act of respect.
As I have done more and more genealogy, this interest has continued as well. There are numerous sites where I have found images of ancestors’ graves. Some are unique, like this elaborate monument to Lion Gardiner that was designed by architect James Renwick, famed for his design of St. Patrick’s Cathedral in NYC, when Gardiner’s body was re-interred in 1886. Others are crudely simple, a slab of stone with the name crudely carved with what looked to be a nail. Many have no stones at all, which I find sad because there will be no possibility that someone will walk through the graveyard one day and read their name aloud.
There’s a great site online that has the entire Farber Collection available for viewing. The late David Farber and his wife, Jessie Lie Farber, were even more enthralled than I am with cemeteries. They amassed a huge collection of images of the sculpture and carvings on early American graves, most dating before 1800. It’s a treasure trove of imagery and a great site to spend a few moments browsing, especially if you have anything like my interest in how cemeteries relate to our history.
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A writer after my own heart!
We are kindred spirits… I always say “thank you” to the souls as I leave a cemetery.
I hate it when people describe my penchant for hanging out in cemeteries as “creepy” I find more peace and serenity there than I do in any other places…
No, I don’t think it’s “creepy” at all. It’s a place of a pure and natural aspect of our lives. But I’m glad that some people find it creepy because it keeps them far away from me, keeping that peace and serenity intact.
I’m with you on that… I’m perfectly content in a cemetery all alone… Well aside from those that slumber there.
According to the ancient Egyptians, “To speak the name of the dead is to make him live again. It restores the breath of life to him who has vanished.” I wonder if the popularity of genealogy represents an attempt to find some sense of continuity?
I do think that genealogy is an attempt to connect oneself with the greater continuum of time.
On Thu, Mar 28, 2013 at 1:06 AM, Redtree Times
It occurs to me that genealogy might also spring from a curiosity to find out what your genes were doing before you got them — LOL
I love cemeteries too – the gravestones and mausoleums are beautiful. My boyfriend thinks this is morbid because he often says “they’re people no one remembers”. I feel like they are remembered when someone like you or I takes a moment of recognition!
Agreed…
Nothing seems more dead to me than the “memorial gardens” that provide identical markers, no statuary or flowers and no evidence of the personalities of the people buried there. I love clever sayings on the stones, the beauty of the carvings and the evidence of the people who have visited.
One of my favorites is Leadbelly’s grave, behind a Baptist church outside Shreveport. You’d think there wasn’t a person for miles, but his stone is covered with guitar picks – and even better, the stones of many of his family members are there too, scattered around the grounds.
I’m with you. I think that “memorial gardens” are as lifeless as they come. They do nothing to stir the imagination or give you an inkling of the people buried there.
On Fri, Mar 29, 2013 at 9:50 PM, Redtree Times